Genesis 25:19-34
Matthew 13:1-9
When we were little, my older sister and I convinced our younger sister that her duty as the youngest child was to wait on us; run down to the kitchen and get us a snack if we were hungry, even run down to the 7-Eleven if we had a sudden craving for Doritos or Laffy-Taffy. We had our moments when we were bad, I am ashamed to say.
Older siblings often dominate the younger ones because they’re bigger, smarter, stronger – at least for a while. But sometimes even when things even out; when the younger siblings are as big and strong and smart as the older siblings they still let themselves be dominated, simply because they are used to it. It’s the way things have always been.
If you ever see a younger sibling gain any advantage over the older sibling, it’s probably because they carefully watched and listened and schemed, like Jacob. Even though they were twins, even though they were born minutes or even seconds apart – the story says Jacob was born grasping Esau’s heel – still, everybody knew and respected that Esau was the elder and Jacob the younger. That’s just the way things are. In family.
The story about Isaac’s family is a story about family unhappiness. Brothers and sisters fail to treat each other with care and respect; mothers and fathers choose favorites and the children can’t help but notice it. It’s our human nature – we are flawed, imperfect beings who fail to love as we should.
The story of Esau and Jacob is a puzzling one because it’s just hard to figure out what to make of these characters. Would Esau really trade his birthright for a bowl of soup? Would Jacob really withhold food from his brother unless he gave him his birthright? And is this really a binding legal transaction?
To the third question, I really don’t know. It seems to be mostly symbolic; it’s not as though there was any magic involved, like a Freaky Friday sort of thing where the two people switch bodies with each other. But it does seem to indicate consent on the part of Esau to give over to Jacob the right to his inheritance, presumably the traditional double share that the first son is entitled to. It is remarkable that he gave it up so casually. And cheaply.
The scripture says he despised his birthright. In the way we understand what it is to despise something, I don’t believe we really see that in the story. A newer translation, the Common English Bible, uses the phrase “showing just how little he thought of his birthright.” I think that makes more sense to us. Clearly, Esau thought little about his birthright.
He didn’t trouble himself to think about it, to appreciate it, to truly value it. Maybe Esau took his birthright for granted, never questioning that it was his. After all, his birthright was his natural right, wasn’t it? He couldn’t really give it away to his brother any more than he could give his brother his natural red hair. By the laws of nature it was his and his alone. Right?
Well, the message that the story in Genesis seems to be driving home is: the way we think things should be is not necessarily the way God ordains that they should be. And that God enjoys stirring the pot now and then to remind us of that. Don’t get too complacent; don’t be too self-assured about your rights, your entitlements.
By what right do we have anything at all? It is a question we might ask ourselves, because I think we all – at some time, about some things – have that sense of entitlement.
We get this sense of entitlement from growing accustomed to certain things. The culture we live in, the people around us; what we have always known and had and learned to expect. It trains us to see a thing as our due – instead of seeing it as gift.
And if we ever do think of the ones who don’t have all these things that we are somehow entitled to, we tell ourselves that in some way they are different from us, and perhaps less deserving than us.
This sense of entitlement inevitably leads to resentment, because when we are no longer getting that thing we feel entitled to get – well, that feels unfair.
Don’t think this applies to you? You never have this sense of entitlement? Maybe. But next time you feel resentful or irritated about something, ask yourself this: Am I resenting this because I feel entitled to something else?
In the end a sense of entitlement hurts us because at some point we will be grieving the loss of that thing that maybe we never really had, but somehow believe we should have. And oh how much better our lives would be if we had that thing. But again, by what right do we have anything at all? Our God-given right, perhaps?
Esau may have felt entitled to what he had. But Jacob did not. He knew he had to plan and grasp; Jacob knows that none of these things will be given to him. He will have to use his heart and mind and strength to get anything.
Esau thought it was his God-given right to carry the promise, to receive the inheritance, to be the chosen one – but it wasn’t. That would belong to Jacob, who certainly had the God-given talents to seize it and hold it and succeed with it – this will be apparent in the rest of the story.
The stories of Genesis show us again and again that God’s plan was often not what God’s people expected. That the word of God frequently turned their world upside down.
Thousands of years later, Jesus told a little parable about what it is like to hear the word of God. It is like seed being sown. Some of it fell on a path and was quickly devoured by birds. Some fell on rocky ground where it failed to put down roots. Some of the seed fell among thorns and was choked. But other seeds fell on fertile soil and brought forth an abundance of grain.
After this, Jesus raises the question: what kind of soil are you? Are you complacent, entitled? Or will you recognize that everything is, truly, gift. And your responsibility is to care for and nurture the gift you receive? To be good soil for the gift.
May we lose our sense of entitlement and gain the joy in remembering that it is all gift.
May we practice gratitude for all these gifts, forgoing resentment about the gifts we don’t have.
May we follow the light and listen to the word that guides us on the path God lights before us.
